Many people have questions about what therapy is, what it entails, what we will do in session etc. No question is a bad question when it comes to your care and comfort. If the answer is not here, please ask me! I'll be more than happy to get the information to you. We can schedule a screening call to assess "fit" and answer your questions at 702-763-2834.
Q: How do I know I "need" therapy?
A: It's up to you! My first response is usually: do you want an objective support system, a sounding board, someone to be witness to your painful past, assistance getting over or through something, an accountability partner, someone to be a measuring stick for your progress, or a neutral party to run your questions by? Sometimes our needs are more subtle than that and you want to explore what these needs are, or maybe you are mandated to therapy. Are you feeling extraordinarily stressed or overwhelmed? Do you need a space to discuss deeply private or personal matters where you will not be judged? Are you trying to make changes in life but finding your solutions are not working? Do you feel stuck or like you are spinning your wheels and are going no-where? Do you need someone knowledgeable in sexual issues and are not sure where to turn? Are you looking to learn about yourself, expand, grow, or head in a new direction? If you answered yes to any of these questions or similar ones, then therapy may be great for you!
Q: Don't all people in therapy have some sort of problem? Like there's something wrong with them?
A: Not at all! From my perspective, EVERYONE could use a little therapy at some point in their lives (if not throughout life). This is because humans are dynamic, diverse, and complex creatures. Garnering support, increasing insight, exploration of self, treating mental health, and pursuing personal growth are hallmarks of a healthy, balanced person... quite the opposite of someone "with something wrong". Therapy can help with all those things. That being said- Individual change is very difficult. Life change, even a positive change like a new house, job, baby, lifestyle, or relationship is going to cause stress! Change requires exploration and adaptation. Therapy is good for ALL that.
Q: How long do I need to come?
A: Depends on the person, their situation, and how much you would like to accomplish. Something to note is that couple's therapy can take awhile. You might expect it to take two months to two years for a lot of progress. I recommend giving therapy at least a couple consistent months try before deciding it is not for you. Some issues can be remedied quickly, but some people want long-term support. I can do both! If we are not a good fit, I can refer you to someone who can help. This process is about you.
Q: What exactly happens in therapy? What should I expect?
A: In my therapy room, we mostly talk, learn things, and try out new solutions to old problems. I try to keep it as conversational as possible. I do ask questions (some of them tough), and I do listen extensively to your perspectives. We begin by some form of assessment- I have some paperwork for you to complete and I have preliminary questions to ask you, but I still keep this as a collaborative conversation between us. There may be homework I give you or activities in session. I also help you set goals , monitor progress, plan treatment, etc. You do not have to come in with specifics on what you want to say. I'm here to guide you! It's normal to be nervous for awhile, and I realize that it takes some time to get to know your therapist and feel fully comfortable opening up. Don't worry, I am very patient!
Q: Can my... partner/spouse/relative/friend come with me?
A: Anyone who signs the confidentiality agreement form and is relevant to your care can attend with you. This is something I like to discuss with you first, and may occur some of your sessions (at your discretion). There will be times I talk to each person individually. For couples (or family) therapy, most sessions will occur with all partners (or members) present, but it is normal for there to be some individual discussions as it pertains to treatment.
Anything else? Just ask! Shoot me an email and I will do my best to respond within 48 hours (longer if on leave or out of office). If you want a response sooner, email is the best, most consistent way to reach me.
However, you may also call and leave a voicemail at 702-763-2834.
